Fear

Example 1:

-Hello love, what's your name?
-....
-Oi gimme a smile!
-...
-You're beautiful!
-....
-Cunt, you're ugly and fat anyway!
-???

Many times as I walk on the street I get catcalled and harassed by men.
I can actually count on one hand the times I have been inappropriately approached by women. Those times account for less than 0.5% of all the catcalling and harassment I have received in my whole life.

If I talk to those people they start being creepy, asking where I live or if I have a boyfriend. If I don't talk to them they start insulting me. Even if I try to politely avoid them they're not having it. Sometimes people on the street or clubs have gotten physical. Other times they have followed me to see where I live.
They feel entitled to a response; me giving my phone number and even having sex with them. They think they have the right to touch me or even grope me and follow me around.
I have been asked before -on the street- by people if I want to have sex with them, and when I said no they insulted me and attacked my gender.

Example 2:

(Insert offensive subject here that has been posted online by a sexist/misogynist/racist/homophobe/transphobe,body shamer, bully etc)

Me: Abuse and bullying are wrong, we should be more considerate of one another and stop shaming.
Other commentators:
-Fuck you cunt!
-Go back to your kitchen!
-Shut up you slut!
-You're ugly and fat anyway no one's gonna shag ya!
-Die!

I have been active on the internet for the past 8-9 years. Ever since I have received plenty of cyberbullying and online abuse. Again, following the same pattern of example 1, 99.99999% of the time it's males who attack me.

If I offend them and fight back it just becomes worse. If I don't reply they still won't stop as more and more new people will comment and attack me. When I reply and I present a valid argument they just resort to trolling and bullying.
Some people will stalk me online and start posting my personal info. Some others will falsely report me. Others send me private messages offending me in the worst way and then block me so I can't respond.
They want to demean me, they want to show that they're winning, they want to abuse me and attack me personally in public (even though I'm just an online stranger). They feel they have the right to do all those things because I disagree with them, because I show them that they can't see past their privilege and that they're ignorant. They hold a grudge against feminism -usually without even knowing what it is or what it represents- and they're misogynists and sexists.

I'm not even going to mention the abuse I received when I used online dating and how cruel and rude men were if I didn't respond, or if I dared tell them I'm not interested. They just couldn't accept it and unless I told them I'm in a relationship they would tear me apart.

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I could go into much more detail and mention other examples, but I believe you get the point. And the point is: as a female I don't feel safe and 99% of the time a man approaches me I feel threatened.

Every person has the right to feel safe and I fail to understand how some people choose to ignore that.

I don't get how anyone feels entitled to threaten and harass anyone anywhere just because they want to.

I don't get how anyone gets joy from making people suffer whether that happens online or outside of the internet.

I don't get how I have less rights because I'm a woman.

I feel desperate when I see people thinking I owe them anything just because I'm a female or that I exist for their purposes (eg them looking at me in pervy ways) or that I have to fit in the little box they have in their head about female identity and roles; the box that patriarchy embedded on their little brains.

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Straight women & men, gays, lesbians, agender folks, gender fluid folks, trans men & women etc we're all EQUAL.
We should have the same rights, we should be given the same opportunities, we should receive the same support and above all:

We should ALL feel safe.