"I believe in you."
The pressure of this phrase has been weighing on my shoulders since I was a little kid.
I know you'll think "Pressure? It's such a positive phrase!"
But really, is it?
What "I believe in you" implies is more like "I believe you can make it so, I'm expecting you to make it."
Therefore what it really shows is others' expectations of you to succeed.
In addition to that that expectation usually connotes others' unwillingness to help you, since they have already predetermined you can make it on your own.
Expectations can be problematic; especially when coming from others towards the results of your efforts on any aspect.
Expectations can be highly stressful and block you from doing things your own way and/or for your own sake.
Expectations force you to try to please those who "believe in you."
You feel you have to return to those people because they gave you that phrase, "I believe in you."
When people "believe in you", they are less inclined to assist you, presuming "you already got this."
Or maybe it's an excuse so they won't have to ask whether you need help or support.
Because if they ask, they're committing to provide any kind of support you may seek after.
So please, before you say "I believe in you", question your motives and thoughts. Do not throw this phrase around without thinking beforehand.
Because to some it may be a great source of power and inspiration, but to some others it can be the beginning of endless anxiety and depression.
