"You're not feminine"

Yesterday one of my driving theory classmates said I'm not feminine because I don't wear high heels and I don't speak a certain way. I got angry at him and told him I disagree. He insisted that I don't dress feminine and my mannerisms aren't feminine. Apparently to him, femininity is correlated to being a bimbo.

The notion that there is only one specific expression of femininity bothers me. Being feminine doesn't stem from your fashion choices. It is deeply rooted within you as a person, it's part of your character and personality (and of course it is irrelevant to your gender). Whether and how you choose to express it isn't a necessary indicator of it.

Can we all please stop being brainwashed by the media's (and social media's) projection of femininity and masculinity? Can we all please stop restricting ourselves when it comes to our feminine and/or masculine expression? Can we stop letting toxic and harmful generalisations and stereotypes define us? Lastly, can we stop judging others by our standards, and respect that every individual is different and has the right to be respected for the way they would like to be perceived?

Ghosts from the past

Recently I discovered a person from my past is online stalking me -still, and has even befriended other people from my past.

That person was obsessed with me for years, and even when I made sure to distance myself from them, they kept on trying to meddle into my business.

I am puzzled by their unhealthy behaviour towards me, especially considering that one of the reasons I chose to get them out of my life was due to disrespecting my privacy.

I understand that many people don't know how to handle rejection, even when it's their fault entirely, but that doesn't justify their approach and actions.

Random Thoughts XXXXXI

Life is way too short to spend it surrounded by assholes, bullies and narrow minded people. Don't be afraid to remove people from your life if they're toxic to you. You are entitled to choose how you want to live your life and with whom. And if people judge you, or if they don't get your decisions, screw them. It's your life, your rules.