Sexual harassment & rape allegations on the news

With all of which has been happening lately in regards to past sexual harassment and rape revelations I would like to take this moment to connect with all of you who are survivors and are now suffering from PTSD -which is resurfacing due to the news:

•You have the right to turn the news off. You have the right to disconnect from the Internet for sometime. You are not a bad person for doing so. Self-care and self-love is tremendously important in your journey to heal.
Be selfish, you deserve it!

•You don’t have to explain yourself to anyone. No one is entitled to request your PTSD status, your general or specific mental health status and why the news may be upsetting.
The fact that so many women are raped and harassed daily should be upsetting to everyone anyway!

•If your PTSD is getting bad or out of control, please, seek support. Either professional or from your loved ones. There are even online resources where you can receive support for free.

•Lastly, it is ok to block people and disassociate yourself from them if their behaviour, words or actions are a trigger to you. You do not have to tolerate anything/anyone that/who is harmful to your mental or physical health.

Stay safe & take care!
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Be selfish

Learn how to be selfish,
learn how to prioritise yourself,
learn how to do things for yourself,
learn how to vocalise the things you want,
learn how to say no to the things you don't want,
learn how to respect and love yourself.
If you don't look out for yourself, no one else will.

Plus size stereotypes

There are so many stereotypes surrounding plus size people, it's infuriating.

More specifically, we're portrayed as lazy, stupid, boring etc.

Plus size women get mistreated by strangers who shout insults about our weight on the street, public servants who have an attitude towards us because they consider us lower beings; we get catcalled and harassed by men who think we should be happy to be violated because we won't be able to 'do better' due to our weight, we are discriminated against during interviews because employers think we may lead an unhealthy lifestyle or because they may think we're 'slow' or lazy. We're always seen as the 'fat friend' in our friend groups and social circles.

And don't even get me started on how society views and treats plus size men, how people treat them as disgusting creatures and how other men make fun of them pretending these are harmless 'man jokes.'

As a plus size woman I have a few things to say:

We're not your punching bags. Stop taking your problems out on us.
Plus size people don't exist for your aesthetic pleasure and we do not need to adhere to any of your stereotypical expectations. We also do not need to apologise for who we are and we do not owe you an explanation about our weight and lifestyle.

You have no right to make assumptions about our life and you aren't entitled to insult us and belittle us.

Plus size people come in all shapes and sizes and they can be:
Sexy, smart, professional, active, athletic, seductive, strong, beautiful, talented...

And if you can't accept that, well, that's your problem, not ours.